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Practical insights on executive communication, public speaking, interpersonal skills & confidence for professionals in Singapore — through the lens of an ontological coach.
How Life Coaching Helps Improve Confidence
What is your confidence worth to you? How would your life change if you improved your confidence? Life coaching helps improve confidence, but is it important enough for you to ask for help? Confidence is an important trait that can affect many...
How We Derive Confidence & Regret
I sometimes contextualize confidence as the ability to take action as soon as one conceives it. Lately, it came up in the coaching sessions with a client who contemplated quitting her job. The work here was obviously not about evoking confidence...
Meditate to Communicate
Here's a suggestion: can we meditate to communicate better? The benefits of meditation have been widely documented. Chief among them is perhaps its ability to cultivate greater awareness. And awareness is everything... especially if you wish to...
What Makes Confidence Difficult
Confidence is something that I regularly work on with my coaching clients. From experience, what makes confidence difficult is the focus on the 'correct' and 'wrong' answers. It trips up the way we communicate, and robs us of better outcomes. It's...
How to Get More Freedom in a (Romantic) Relationship
Have you ever felt it was difficult to say or ask for something in a relationship? How to get more freedom in a (romantic) relationship? Not being able to freely express our thoughts and needs, and to change our minds (especially when we realize...
You Want A Life Coach? What’s Wrong? Why Are You So Weak?
Some of the most common misconceptions about coaching is that it's for people who have 'something wrong' with them. Or that they are 'weak'. These were once my impressions as well. But they turned out to be quite different from what I observed -...
Book Review: The Courage to be Disliked
The Courage to be Dislikedby Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake KogaVirtually the entire book takes the form of a dialogue between two people, which made it easy to read. It also made the ideas easier to understand, as the two characters raise and...
Book Review: Atomic Habits
Atomic Habitsby James ClearThis is an extremely lean book; it’s almost almost pound-for-pound substance. It gets straight to the point and maintains interest with a steady flow of interesting knowledge that’s easy to consume. I can see care was...
Book Review: Gestalt Therapy: 100 Key Points and Techniques
Gestalt Therapy: 100 Key Points and Techniquesby Dave Mann It felt like an exhaustive index of Gestalt fundamentals, which will likely make this one of my professional ‘textbooks’ from now on. I came to this book after experiencing some essentials...
Book Review: A Gestalt Coaching Primer
A Gestalt Coaching Primer: The Path Toward Awareness IQ by Dr. Dorothy E. Siminovitch, MCC I was motivated to read this book mainly because I had the good fortune to learn, in person, from its author, Dr. Dorothy Siminovitch, MCC. It took me four...