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El's musings & meaning-making
What Makes Confidence Difficult
Confidence is something that I regularly work on with my coaching clients. From experience, what makes confidence difficult is the focus on the 'correct' and 'wrong' answers. It's reasonable that we wish to do the right thing for ourselves and the...
Why Is Effective Communication Complex?
At some point, we have all suffered the lack of effective communication. "I don't know why he would think like that. I already explained it very clearly to him." "If she still doesn't get it, it's her problem. I said the words very clearly to her....
Anxiety – Waiting Sucks (How to be Less Anxious)
Waiting sucks. It's one of the hardest things to do. Doing doesn't impact us the same way. We can easily find plenty of resources for doing; strategies, methods, tips, etc. And though from time to time, we may be terrified of what we are called to...
How to Get More Freedom in a (Romantic) Relationship
Have you ever felt it was difficult to say or ask for something in a relationship? How to get more freedom in a (romantic) relationship? Not being able to freely express our thoughts and needs leads us to feeling restricted in a relationship. Why...
You Want A Life Coach? What’s Wrong? Why Are You So Weak?
Some of the most common misconceptions about coaching is that it's for people who have 'something wrong' with them. Or that they are 'weak'. These were once my impressions as well. But they turned out to be quite different from what I observed -...
Book Review: The Courage to be Disliked
The Courage to be Dislikedby Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake KogaAs virtually all of this book is in the form of dialogue between two persons, it was easy to read. This also made it easier to understand the points being made by the authors, as the...
Book Review: Difficult Conversations
Difficult Conversationsby Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila HeenI appreciate how ‘real’ this book is. Consider the following statements made by the author, with regards to the work championed by this book: “Who has time for all this in the real...