Life Coach in Singapore
Hi! I’m Ellery, an ontological life coach based in Singapore. My interest is in helping you to live life with less suffering and more freedom!
I can help you to get unstuck from problems and achieve your goals. My clients work with me to communicate more effectively, increase confidence, improve relationships, manage emotions and strengthen leadership.
Over the years, the online searches for “life coach Singapore” have seen an increase. You may have made a similar search yourself – transformational coach, executive coach, relationship coach, career coach, etc – that landed you here. Did curiosity bring you? Or do you have something specific that you are looking for? Regardless of how you ended up here, I welcome you.
IMYC & IGCSE Teacher, Middleton International School
"Ellery is a master of his craft. It is clear that he is able to help people from all walks of life."
Ellery is a master of his craft. He has guided me through a period of my life where I need someone to help me. What you learn with Ellery will help you for the rest of your life. He has my deepest gratitude and thanks for sharing his skills and knowledge with me. Before coaching with Ellery I didn't know how to interpret my moods and emotions. After, I was able to understand how to use the body and mind to control my thoughts. The biggest awareness for me was being shown that it was possible to use my body to control my moods and emotions. By doing exercises and mindfulness breathing I was able to calm my thoughts and manage myself better. Ellery has a gift of being able to guide me to realise things about myself that can improve me as a person. It is clear that he is able to help people from all walks of life.
"His guidance on effecting change not just mentally, but on a physical level, was a liberating & transformative experience."
It was a pleasure to work with Ellery as my coach. He helped achieve clarity by cutting through the clutter to identify problems that were blind spots. He helped reorganize, refocus and anchor on goals, which sets challenges in new perspective.
His guidance on effecting change not just mentally, but on a physical level, was an eye-opener. It was a liberating and transformative experience from inside out. It is a process of co-creation, where the coachee steers, while Ellery guides from beside.
I would definitely recommend Ellery as a coach. He listens very attentively, is not afraid to be frank, goes the extra mile and is clearly passionate about what he does.
"I feel a lot more at peace with myself; I'm more confident in myself, I know that I'll figure things out even when things get messy."
I'd recommend Ellery to anyone who's aware that they're in a loop or cycle that they can't break out of and needs some professional, external and unbiased coaching to help them become aware of how to move out of that zone. It's really hard to change something when you can't see the 'blindspots' and I think that's very applicable in this situation.
I was in a very bad place in my personal life and I needed some guidance, advice, help and feedback to organize my thoughts and find a way forward out of what seemed like a constant downward spiral of negativity and guilt. I was trying to control everything in my life.
After coaching with Ellery, I feel a lot more at peace with myself; with who I was and how I came to be who I am. And how to truly love and be compassionate towards myself first so that I may be towards others as well. I'm more confident in myself, I know that I'll figure things out even when things get messy and I know that life will be okay even if it doesn't go according to plan.
I loved and respected the fact that Ellery is not one to shy away from calling me out on my shit. As someone who loves to over-rationalize, it's easy to end up making excuses for myself and frame the narrative as a fixed story in my head. I also think that Ellery’s very skilled at sifting through all my stories (and Lord knows I love to tell my stories to explain myself) and finding the root of my unhappiness or dissatisfaction, which really neatens the whirlwind of thoughts and opinions and feelings in my head which are all entangled amongst each other.
"With swift & artful techniques, Ellery created a lot of clarity, enabled me to take action after each coaching session.
Being coached by Ellery has been illuminating. I brought a topic which I have some clarity over, but have been struggling to understand and manage for years. With swift and artful techniques, Ellery created a lot of clarity, enabled me to experience epiphanic moments and motivated me to take action after each coaching session. I am also particularly grateful for his support during an acute phase of my life in the last 3 months. Thank you, Ellery!
"The sessions help me to align what my brain wants & how I can tap my body as well as language to achieve the desired outcomes.
Coach El has helped me move away from my All or Nothing attitude in my professional life by providing me with easy-to-use tools and a range of possible outcomes to focus on rather than a weakly perceived, rigid one. The main tools are my body language, breathing exercise and posture when I engage with my clients, candidates and colleagues.
The sessions help me to align what my brain wants and how I can tap my body language as well as verbal language effectively to acheive the desired outcomes.
Coach El has helped me through a difficult and frustrating second half of 2020 caused by the global pandemic as each session has been freeing in helping me 'see' that different outcomes can be seen with positivity. The rigidity and short-sightedness of the previous lens I used to 'wear' has been slowly replaced by a softer, gentler and more flexible pair of glasses through which I try and view the world today. Thanks a ton, Coach El.
"He helped me regulate my thoughts, actions & passions, helping me focus on the present. I feel a million tons lighter."
Ellery is an incredibly talented and a born natural life coach. His values-centered and ontological guidance challenged me to think beyond “the flat line of reality” and helped me focus more on finding my inner peace at work and in my life in general. He helped me regulate my thoughts, actions and passions and even helped me accept the past and giving me dedicated tools helping me focus on the present. Ellery is a dedicated coach with a lots of resources to shared. You won't regret this investment in yourself. Millions Thanks Ellery, I feel a million tons lighter.
"I overcame the anxiety to speak with people of higher social status... moved me to be effective in my relationships & confidence."
Hi Ellery, just wanted to say a big “thank you" on your coaching over the past few months.
I’m glad that I have decided to work with you. It is really great how easy to be open with you to share with you my thoughts and in the process, you are sharp and could identify with me the perspectives that I didn’t see for myself. It’s like I have a mirror now to look at the blindspots that I have missed or undiscovered.
Your coaching has also helped me to reconnect and realigned deeply with my thoughts, which brings CLARITY that has moved me to be effective in life, in areas of my work, in my relationships and my confidence.
In applying simple techniques that you shared with me, I overcame the anxiety to speak with people of higher social status.
Thank you again and would definitely recommend you to anyone looking for a great coach, who wants to better themselves. Cheers 😉
"I gained more value than I expected. They have manifested in my business, my relationship with my loved ones & in the relationship with myself.
I felt instantly connected to El on my first session and I felt safe to open up to someone fully for the first time. As someone who is always looking to improve myself as a person, I have spent at least hundreds of hours on self help books and videos but El managed to provide me with realisations about myself and practical steps on how to overcome each limiting thoughts/belief in just a short 2 hours session.
Through my experiences with him, I felt that the methods and guidance that was provided by El are very personalised to my own life and needs, and I have gained more value than I expected. They have manifested in my business, my relationship with my love ones and most importantly, the relationship with myself.
What fascinates me the most is the space that El is able to hold. When I am in the room with El, naturally things that I don't feel or think about starts to surface and I was able to pour them out safely to him without any fear of judgement and without the fear it that it may be too messy as he was able to pick and select the tip of the string from the mental knot. El does not give me any opinionated solutions but rather, he paints a mind map and make my thoughts and feelings so clear in front of me that I'll know how to intervene them based on what I want in my life. I start to see the importance of being able to voice out your thoughts and feelings to someone who is professionally trained and have them arranged and explained. You're doing an amazing job El! I sincerely do hope people start to see value in your work as it is literally life changing!
"I can see the improvement in my communication and relationship with my loved ones & I am closer to them again."
Ellery has helped me a lot in my day to day interaction with people especially my loved ones. I used to be a “skeptical” person who’s scared to try something new but with the help of my coaching with Ellery, I became more open on trying new things and receptive of feedbacks and opinions of other people.
Because of me being more open now, I can see the improvement in my communication and relationship with my loved ones and I am closer to them again. This is the most significant shift after coaching with Ellery. I started my coaching journey because a lot of misunderstandings and tension had been piling up between my loved ones and I.
Ellery helped me to speak my mind (without overthinking), lay out my intentions, listen intently and not jump into conclusions, allowing me to improve my relationships with the people around me.
If you wish for more openness and stronger relationships, I will recommend coaching with Ellery, as he can help on how to see/filter things in a more positive and open way.
"I actually felt a difference in my posture & its positive consequences, either in myself or in the communication with others."
My coaching experience with Ellery was definitely very good for me. I felt really heard and guided into this assertive approach of the Body / Emotion / Language, how they all must grow together. I actually felt a difference in my posture and its positive consequences, either in myself or in the communication with others.
I trust Ellery to coach me, I’ve found him to be very professional, focused in my best interests, always leading me to know more about myself and my behaviour. I find him to be a good coach, as he has this accurate understanding on the many issues that we talked about in our sessions and is able to address them assertively.
I definitely recommend Ellery as a coach, to anyone who wants to deal better with their challenges in life.
"I am able to be more assertive in my requests to my colleagues & managers. And I’ve been able to adopt a more relaxed stance to issues at work."
Ellery has helped me reframe the way I perceive myself in relation to the world. I hadn't realised how much of my perceptions were really the result of self-talk and assumptions. Ellery points out the language I use and how it affects the way I feel when I interact with the world.
On a more tangible level, coaching with Ellery enabled me to manage my feelings of burnout during the COVID19 crisis as well as paying attention to my posture and physical stance.
I am able to be more assertive in my requests to my colleagues and managers. And I’ve been able to adopt a more relaxed stance both physically and mentally to issues at work.
"Working with him was highly worth the investment as I gained so many tools I can use for a lifetime & I have been freed in many ways."
I did 10 sessions with Ellery and it was actually very life-changing for me. Each and every session was jam-packed with the guidance and new perspectives I sorely needed. Some even of things I didn't even know were a block for me.
I really enjoyed how Ellery always made me feel very heard and never once told me what to do. Instead, the self-discoveries he led me on were a lot more impactful that I had ever expected. It led me to form better habits in my career, at home, socially.
I would recommend Ellery to everyone. Working with him was highly worth the investment as I gained so many tools I can use for a lifetime and I have been freed in many ways.
Less Suffering & More Freedom
Through a Life Coach With An Ontological Approach
We thought we understood our world.
We used to navigate life based on the core, unshakable truths we shared. Our decisions were guided by the collective wisdom of government, religion and family, so even in the face of mysteries and challenges, there was a baseline of certainty.
But now, radical new ‘truths’ emerge every other day. As our communities are fragmented by ambiguities, we are pushed to make sense of the world individually. And despite being overwhelmed by information, we know less and fear more.
Therefore, having the support of a personal coach can be highly advantageous if you wish to thrive in this VUCA world. Good coaching is a form of continuous learning that’s personalized for your challenges. A professional coach also provides you a space to process your emotions safely and to formulate your strategies creatively.
As your life coach, I can bring you these benefits, but above all, I will guide you to expand your self-awareness. This will grow your inner resources, and enable you to see possibilities that you couldn’t see before.
Your circumstances may remain uncertain, but you can become more resilient.
The Rise of Coaching
(or, why I would want a life coach)
The increasing number of searches for life coaches is not just happening in Singapore. It is part of a larger trend that is rapidly growing in various developed countries for the following reasons:
- Automation, the internet and social media quicken the pace of life and raise expectations to overwhelming levels
- The world grows more volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous (VUCA) by the day
- The preference for individualization over traditional institutions (such as government, religion and family), resulting in people having to navigate a VUCA world independently
- Post-COVID, professional and personal communities become even smaller and more decentralized, increasing the need to be competent at use of self to manage relationships
- Feeling alone, despite being connected 24/7. This can be especially true for people in leadership positions, as they may have no one to confide in safely
- “High-tech, low-touch” – our interactions become less personable and empathetic as internet culture continues to shape the physical world, exacerbated by COVID-19
As we scramble to cope – and hopefully, to flourish – under the above factors, we inevitably run into proverbial brick walls that we just cannot seem to get over. They could be big, dramatic events, or issues that are more low-key but consistently show up in certain areas of your life.
They could be matters that are external, or something we are holding in our minds (or hearts). It could be a boss that you just cannot seem to please; a co-worker who you just can’t seem to get along with; a friend or family member who repeatedly “triggers” you; or something inside you that you feel is lacking, or preventing you from “moving on”.
Wisdom & New Learning
You sense that there is a need to work on yourself, and may have turned to resources such as self development books, training programs and the internet to better your inner self. This is good awareness, and I congratulate you for it.
The internet can be a handy resource. But while Googling and watching YouTube may get you information, that’s not the same as wisdom. It takes wisdom – knowing how to make use of information – to make real breakthroughs.
To survive in a world that changes nearly on a daily basis, we need to be able to look at things anew. This hinges on our ability for learning – learning that’s not one-size-fits-all, but customized for each individual. Learning that arises from awareness of self and of others.
Coaching is the process where such learning and wisdom for an individual is generated.
AI may become more and more advanced, but it takes a human soul to truly understand another, and to reflect that understanding through empathy and insight. This acting as a “human mirror” is the unique offering of a good life coach. Jack Ma alluded to this when he spoke about “LQ” – the quotient of love.
Start Tapping Into Your Personal Wisdom
See what coaching with me is like, in a ‘chemistry session’.