Life Coach in Singapore
Hi! I’m Ellery, an ontological life coach based in Singapore. My interest is in helping you to live life with less suffering and more freedom!
I can help you to get unstuck from problems and achieve your goals. My clients work with me to communicate more effectively, increase confidence, improve relationships, manage emotions and strengthen leadership.
Over the years, the online searches for “life coach Singapore” have seen an increase. You may have made a similar search yourself – transformational coach, executive coach, relationship coach, career coach, etc – that landed you here. Did curiosity bring you? Or do you have something specific that you are looking for? Regardless of how you ended up here, I welcome you.
What my Clients Say
Here are the testimonials of some of my clients, as shared in their own words.
Regardless of whether it was executive coaching or life coaching, they experienced real changes because we focused on what matters most – inner work.
Ellery is a master of his craft. He has guided me through a period of my life where I need someone to help me. What you learn with Ellery will help you for the rest of your life. He has my deepest gratitude and thanks for sharing his skills and knowledge with me. Before coaching with Ellery I didn't know how to interpret my moods and emotions. After, I was able to understand how to use the body and mind to control my thoughts. The biggest awareness for me was being shown that it was possible to use my body to control my moods and emotions. By doing exercises and mindfulness breathing I was able to calm my thoughts and manage myself better. Ellery has a gift of being able to guide me to realise things about myself that can improve me as a person. It is clear that he is able to help people from all walks of life.
It was a pleasure to work with Ellery as my coach. He helped achieve clarity by cutting through the clutter to identify problems that were blind spots. He helped reorganize, refocus and anchor on goals, which sets challenges in new perspective.
His guidance on effecting change not just mentally, but on a physical level, was an eye-opener. It was a liberating and transformative experience from inside out. It is a process of co-creation, where the coachee steers, while Ellery guides from beside.
I would definitely recommend Ellery as a coach. He listens very attentively, is not afraid to be frank, goes the extra mile and is clearly passionate about what he does.
I trust Ellery to coach me, I’ve found him to be very professional, focused in my best interests, always leading me to know more about myself and my behaviour. I find him to be a good coach, as he has this accurate understanding on the many issues that we talked about in our sessions and is able to address them assertively.
I definitely recommend Ellery as a coach, to anyone who wants to deal better with their challenges in life.
His dedication to work and two-way communication allowed me to manage my thoughts and goals that I want. He taught me exercises that I could practice by myself to grow to a better person. Coaching with Ellery has left me with a clearer mind and direction.
Ellery coached me through a challenging career move. His strengths lie in combining theory and practice in a fun and relevant manner. As a coach, Ellery is observant, thoughtful and sharp. His questioning helped me clarify my thought processes and improve my self awareness. He is also versatile and adapts quickly to different needs and requests with humour and energy.
What I found most helpful was his range of practical coping mechanisms and strategies for stress management, and his knack for explaining the science or psychology behind it. My new awareness of my body movement for example helps me improve my health and better regulate my emotions.
If you are looking for a coach to work with you for better self awareness and performance, or if you’re looking for ways to work through change, I highly recommend Ellery.
Through my experiences with him, I felt that the methods and guidance that was provided by El are very personalised to my own life and needs. There were definitely breakthroughs during the first few sessions but I knew that it was not enough but it was enough for me to see the importance of coaching, which made me motivated to see this through. I decided to take up the 10 sessions with El and I have gained more value than I expected. They have manifested in my business, my relationship with my love ones and most importantly, the relationship with myself. Some of the examples include the power of choices, being more mindful of our languages and what words we use to label ourselves, understanding on how changing our body posture can affect our emotions and many more invaluable tools to help me in my day to day life. El was able to explain these tools to me in a way that I can relate and understand easily. He explains it with such passion that it inspires interest and curiosity in me to find out more.
What fascinates me the most is the space that El is able to hold. When I am in the room with El, naturally things that I don't feel or think about starts to surface and I was able to pour them out safely to him without any fear of judgement and without the fear it that it may be too messy as he was able to pick and select the tip of the string from the mental knot. El does not give me any opinionated solutions but rather, he paints a mind map and make my thoughts and feelings so clear in front of me that I'll know how to intervene them based on what I want in my life. I start to see the importance of being able to voice out your thoughts and feelings to someone who is professionally trained and have them arranged and explained. You're doing an amazing job El! I sincerely do hope people start to see value in your work as it is literally life changing!
This is why a good coach is very important and I am so glad I met El. He always manages to create a very safe space for me to speak up and he has made my journey of self-work more enjoyable than I imagined it to be. Every session leaves me more curious and excited to work on the areas that initially felt so entangled and heavy.
The greatest benefit I got from our coaching would be the ability to replace harmful self criticisms with acceptance and love. This single internal change alone has brought many visible results in different aspects of my life - my emotional and mental health, productivity at work and my relationships.
So, THANK YOU EL! You’re a really awesome coach and inspiring person. My self-work will continue because of you. Keep doing what you do!
I’m glad that I have decided to work with you. It is really great how easy to be open with you to share with you my thoughts and in the process, you are sharp and could identify with me the perspectives that I didn’t see for myself. It’s like I have a mirror now to look at the blindspots that I have missed or undiscovered.
Your coaching has also helped me to reconnect and realigned deeply with my thoughts, which brings CLARITY that has moved me to be effective in life, in areas of my work, in my relationships and my confidence.
In applying simple techniques that you shared with me, I overcame the anxiety to speak with people of higher social status.
Thank you again and would definitely recommend you to anyone looking for a great coach, who wants to better themselves. Cheers 😉
The journey had since pushed me out of my comfort zone in both the areas of private self-work like meditation and personal reflection to everyday outward-facing moments like dealing with challenges such as situational restrictions, to managing relationships with different personality types. I have to say coaching with Ellery had definitely given me less suffering in my everyday life; more control, as well as the space to be bold to explore better alternatives and approaches and be capable of certain other ranges that would bring me results which previously, I would not have imagined them to be possible for me.
Within a session, Ellery had helped to highlight various patterns in my behaviours and thoughts, which had previously remained overlooked or blatantly ignored. As a psychologist, I often identify patterns in others, but working with Ellery helped me to realise that there are always blindspots when it comes to oneself. We really don't know what we don't know, and it's always good to have another person's objective point of view. It was a really useful session, and I came out of it with valuable insights into my situation.
The sessions were professionally conducted and he listens attentively and mindfully. Coaching made me aware that I have blind spots that I would otherwise not know unless its pointed out by someone whom I can trust and feel vulnerable with. What I find useful is when he points out alternative perspectives that I would have otherwise not thought on my own.
I would recommend coaching for anyone who is stuck in life or having issues seeing things with clarity. It certainly saves a lot of time figuring out your own head and flaws on your own.
El demonstrated a lot of empathy during our sessions and truly cares for his clients by following up after. I would recommend El to people who are searching for clarity in their struggles as well as those who wants to take an active role in self-improvement. Thanks El!
As we continued for more sessions, Ellery helped me identify various breakdowns and offered valuable insights and perspectives coupled with session practice to help me overcome them. I personally have a set of struggles with feeling tense in situations which do not call for it.
With Ellery's help, I could better see and assess and be aware that I have inbuilt automatic responses and this knowledge allows me to pick and choose how I want to react.There were many 'wow' moments for me as I never saw things from a different perspective.
Ellery possess a broad spectrum of knowledge and wisdom in the field of personal coaching and definitely one to consult for personal growth and breakthroughs.
If, like me, you want to gain some super powers to overcome your obstacles in life, I encourage you to start coaching with Ellery!
Less Suffering & More Freedom
Through a Life Coach With An Ontological Approach
We thought we understood our world.
We used to navigate life based on the core, unshakable truths we shared. Our decisions were guided by the collective wisdom of government, religion and family, so even in the face of mysteries and challenges, there was a baseline of certainty.
But now, radical new ‘truths’ emerge every other day. As our communities are fragmented by ambiguities, we are pushed to make sense of the world individually. And despite being overwhelmed by information, we know less and fear more.
Therefore, having the support of a personal coach can be highly advantageous if you wish to thrive in this VUCA world. Good coaching is a form of continuous learning that’s personalized for your challenges. A professional coach also provides you a space to process your emotions safely and to formulate your strategies creatively.
As your life coach, I can bring you these benefits, but above all, I will guide you to expand your self-awareness. This will grow your inner resources, and enable you to see possibilities that you couldn’t see before.
Your circumstances may remain uncertain, but you can become more resilient.
The Rise of Coaching
(or, why I would want a life coach)
The increasing number of searches for life coaches is not just happening in Singapore. It is part of a larger trend that is rapidly growing in various developed countries for the following reasons:
- Automation, the internet and social media quicken the pace of life and raise expectations to overwhelming levels
- The world grows more volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous (VUCA) by the day
- The preference for individualization over traditional institutions (such as government, religion and family), resulting in people having to navigate a VUCA world independently
- Post-COVID, professional and personal communities become even smaller and more decentralized, increasing the need to be competent at use of self to manage relationships
- Feeling alone, despite being connected 24/7. This can be especially true for people in leadership positions, as they may have no one to confide in safely
- “High-tech, low-touch” – our interactions become less personable and empathetic as internet culture continues to shape the physical world, exacerbated by COVID-19
As we scramble to cope – and hopefully, to flourish – under the above factors, we inevitably run into proverbial brick walls that we just cannot seem to get over. They could be big, dramatic events, or issues that are more low-key but consistently show up in certain areas of your life.
They could be matters that are external, or something we are holding in our minds (or hearts). It could be a boss that you just cannot seem to please; a co-worker who you just can’t seem to get along with; a friend or family member who repeatedly “triggers” you; or something inside you that you feel is lacking, or preventing you from “moving on”.
Wisdom & New Learning
You sense that there is a need to work on yourself, and may have turned to resources such as self development books, training programs and the internet to better your inner self. This is good awareness, and I congratulate you for it.
The internet can be a handy resource. But while Googling and watching YouTube may get you information, that’s not the same as wisdom. It takes wisdom – knowing how to make use of information – to make real breakthroughs.
To survive in a world that changes nearly on a daily basis, we need to be able to look at things anew. This hinges on our ability for learning – learning that’s not one-size-fits-all, but customized for each individual. Learning that arises from awareness of self and of others.
Coaching is the process where such learning and wisdom for an individual is generated.
AI may become more and more advanced, but it takes a human soul to truly understand another, and to reflect that understanding through empathy and insight. This acting as a “human mirror” is the unique offering of a good life coach. Jack Ma alluded to this when he spoke about “LQ” – the quotient of love.
Start Tapping Into Your Personal Wisdom
See what coaching with me is like, in a free ‘chemistry session’.