Communication & Confidence Coach in Singapore
I’m Ellery, a communication and confidence coach, based in Singapore. I help you be more effective in your interpersonal communication, and increase your confidence and visibility at the workplace.
Certified ontological life coach
I’m a Professional Certified Coach with the ICF and a Newfield Certified Coach through the Newfield Network. I’m also the first Embodied Yoga Principles Certified Coach in Asia. At the core, I’m an ontologically-trained life coach; I also draw from a diverse body of work, such as Gestalt psychotherapy and the field of Organization Development.
I have extensive experience as a communication and confidence coach because over the years, these two areas were what most of my clients first sought me for. I can help you to communicate more effectively, increase confidence, improve relationships, manage emotions and strengthen leadership.
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"His practical tips & tools enabled me to increase my confidence in handling difficult situations & stakeholders."
Before I met Ellery, I was unmotivated both in my personal and work life. But his coaching sessions transformed me within 2 months.
With Ellery’s support, I reconnected with my good habits and got back on my routines. I started my regular walks, set time for meditation. As a result, I managed to complete my tasks on time without distractions!
His practical tips and tools enabled me to increase my confidence in handling difficult situations and stakeholders when I joined a new company during covid period. His techniques are effective because they work both in your mind and in your body.
I would highly recommend him to anyone who want positive changes and impact in their lives. Ellery is a coach who can spot the root of your problems fast and helps you to formulate your own solutions.
"He doesn’t just help you understand what’s holding you back—he creates practical strategies to simplify and implement new approaches that are both effective and sustainable."
Ellery is an exceptional coach and an amazing human being. He is deeply empathetic, a fantastic listener, and highly pragmatic in his methods. His ability to integrate psychosomatic techniques and pinpoint the root causes of challenges is remarkable. He doesn’t just help you understand what’s holding you back—he creates practical strategies to simplify and implement new approaches that are both effective and sustainable.
He gave me tools that not only helped me through the immediate challenges but also shaped how I approach life in general.
Ellery worked with me during one of the most challenging periods of my life, when the two-decade relationship with my partner ended. Navigating this emotional turmoil was overwhelming, but Ellery’s support was a lifeline. One of the most impactful things he did was to introduce me to a framework of communication that completely transformed how I process emotions, communicate, and connect with others. It was a turning point that confirmed I had chosen the right coach.
My most significant change is a profound shift in how I identify and express my needs, while cultivating empathy for others in a genuine way. While I’ve always considered myself a kind and empathetic person, working with Ellery gave me the language and tools to truly express my full potential.
I can now handle interactions with everyone in my life—whether it’s my boss, colleagues, my new partner, my ex-partner, my parents, or friends—differently and far more effectively. I approach these relationships with clarity, empathy, and a deeper understanding of both myself and others.
Working with Ellery is not just about progress—it’s about meaningful transformation, and I wholeheartedly recommend him to anyone looking to grow, heal, and achieve their goals.
"With swift & artful techniques, Ellery created a lot of clarity, enabled me to take action after each coaching session."
Being coached by Ellery has been illuminating. I brought a topic which I have some clarity over, but have been struggling to understand and manage for years. With swift and artful techniques, Ellery created a lot of clarity, enabled me to experience epiphanic moments and motivated me to take action after each coaching session. I am also particularly grateful for his support during an acute phase of my life in the last 3 months. Thank you, Ellery!
"Ellery helped me identify blindspots in my communication—especially in tone & presence, to be taken more seriously. I now engage more confidently, even with senior leaders, & advocate for what I deserve."
Working with Ellery was a game-changer during a challenging phase in my career. Despite years of hard work and public recognition, I struggled to assert myself in difficult conversations, which impacted my confidence and career progression.
Through practical strategies, Ellery helped me identify blind spots in my communication—especially in managing tone and presence to be taken more seriously. I wanted to be assertive without being pushy, and he guided me in finding that balance.
What stood out was his approach—no rigid scripts or mindset clichés. Instead, he helped me shift how I feel in the moment, making confidence and clarity more natural. His feedback was always constructive, creating a safe space for real growth.
Thanks to his coaching, I now engage more confidently, even with senior leaders, and advocate for what I deserve. If you’re looking for a coach to help you navigate workplace challenges and sharpen your communication, I highly recommend him!
"I'm a better communicator now. With Ellery’s coaching, I’m able to access my courage to voice out what I want, & my opinions, without worrying what other people think about me."
Sessions with Ellery are very chill. It feels like a conversation with a friend but you get the direction and guidance that you need to hear.
I’ve had Ellery as my coach for over a year. On our first couple of sessions I already felt very comfortable talking to him. When he works with me, I don’t feel judged, and I think that’s the most important thing. When I go into a session, I don’t have to put up a front if I’m not feeling good that day. I can be very honest about it and Ellery will walk me through it together. He creates a space that is very comfortable and safe.
I find his coaching to-the-point and effective. Reason being his methods are somatic in nature – which can help me to not just think differently, but feel differently as well, by working through my physical body. This is very practical as it’s easier to apply anytime and anywhere. When Ellery brought me through one of these somatic methods, I experienced how I could actively override social anxiety and restore my confidence regardless of the situation I am in.
Besides the effective sessions, I remember a couple of phone conversations he had with me because I wasn’t feeling good about work and myself; resulting in anxiety. Ellery gave me perspective from a third person’s point of view and it helped me take myself out of the situation and see more possibilities. Things ‘clicked’ and my decisions became a little bit easier.
I am a better communicator now for sure. Working on myself with Ellery’s coaching, I’m able to access my courage to voice out what I want, and to voice my opinions without worrying about what other people think about me. These were huge challenges for me, from professional and personal standpoints.
Of course, I still have good days and bad days. But now, even on my bad days, I can catch my negative self-talk, and make the choice to shift. I’m not so harsh on myself anymore often taking a kinder and softer tone.
I actually introduced my husband to work with Ellery as well. He’s typically not one for such forms of personal support, but he’s now glad he has Ellery as his coach!
Ellery’s methods are definitely useful and I am happy to have started on this journey with him. He has equipped me with skills that I will be able to keep for life.
Senior SDR, Aspire
"I had challenges with communication due to mental barriers. Working with Ellery, I felt these barriers break down, & a new way of being opened up. I’ve even gotten a promotion!"
Before coming to Ellery, I had challenges with communications due to mental barriers which resulted in much undue stress. Throughout the months working with Ellery, I felt these personal mental barriers slowly break down, and a new way of being opened up for me. A truly liberating experience.
Ellery has a great gift of coaching, using both individualized and practical approaches to give you tools to make changes in your life. He employs active listening and empathy to allow him (and yourself) to uncover barriers in yourself, giving your mind clarity and opening up possibilities that you can work on.
Coupled with practical somatic approaches, you learn to use your body to change your thoughts on the go which I used daily in both my work and personal life. I’ve even shared it to many of my friends and they have found it useful too.
Thank you Ellery – as testament to the work he’s done, I’ve even gotten a promotion!
"I overcame the anxiety to speak with people of higher social status... moved me to be effective in my relationships & confidence."
Hi Ellery, just wanted to say a big “thank you” on your coaching over the past few months.
I’m glad that I have decided to work with you. It is really great how easy to be open with you to share with you my thoughts and in the process, you are sharp and could identify with me the perspectives that I didn’t see for myself. It’s like I have a mirror now to look at the blindspots that I have missed or undiscovered.
Your coaching has also helped me to reconnect and realigned deeply with my thoughts, which brings CLARITY that has moved me to be effective in life, in areas of my work, in my relationships and my confidence.
In applying simple techniques that you shared with me, I overcame the anxiety to speak with people of higher social status.
Thank you again and would definitely recommend you to anyone looking for a great coach, who wants to better themselves. Cheers 😉
"El has made me become a more direct communicator. I was able to make my needs well-known to others – thus making my communication with people around me a lot better.
El has made me become a more direct communicator.
Before I went coaching with El, I found it challenging to communicate my requests and expectations to my colleagues and friends. El has helped me figure out these blind spots. By being aware of them, I was able to make my needs well-known to others – thus making my communication with people around me a lot better. I am able to give better clarity to those around me as well, both in work and personal relationships.
I also appreciate how honest El has been with his feedback.
It was very direct, concise, and clear. I appreciate the guidance and the steps he has given me because it makes me think for myself rather than give direct solutions that might not feel genuine to me. He enhances my true colors through his coaching methods and prompts me with questions.
If you are in a position where you think everything feels like it doesn’t go your way, or maybe you are facing some challenges in communicating with those around you, I would highly recommend you go to El! There might be something you can do differently to make a change and impact your environment, happiness, and well-being.
It takes a lot of courage, hard work, and open-mindedness to try this coaching method. But based on my experience – it opens up a lot of possibilities (that initially I thought was not possible), and it makes me feel that there is nothing I can’t do as long as I set my mind, passion, and effort into it. It makes me feel free in a different way and the “I got this” feeling.
Thank you El!
"I’ve had issues communicating with my partner. But after what I learnt from you, I was finally able to speak my thoughts, share my feelings. It was a nothing short of a 180º transformation!"
El, I experienced a breakthrough in my communication after our previous session.
As you know, I’ve had issues communicating with my partner for quite a while. I found it hard to talk to her, and it was difficult to share my feelings with her.
But after what I learnt from you in our previous session, that same night, I had one of the best conversations with my her! I was finally able to speak my thoughts, share my feelings… most importantly, she was finally able to understand and relate to what I was expressing!
It was a nothing short of a 180º transformation, from how we have been!
From the start, I was mindful of the space; I didn’t fall into the trap of having the conversation with her while I was driving. This thing you spotted already made a fundamental difference!
When we sat down to talk, I stayed aware of how I was somatically. I shifted my breath and my body as needed, so I was able to manage my emotions and articulate my needs. The conversation went so smooth, and at the end, I really felt understood. Finally!
I also shared your techniques with my partner, and showed her how to use them. She instantly felt she could calm herself down and be in better control of her words. True enough, when she applied it to talk with her family, she was able to get her message across clearly, without breaking down in tears!
Ever since that day, I felt that I have no problems speaking with people. Incredible, right?
I’ve also been using and sharing this at the workplace, where I often have to help my team deal with interpersonal issues. I feel great that I’m able to improve my communication and to offer the same help to others.
I’m not perfect yet. But this experience was truly insightful, because I can clearly see what I was doing wrong in the past! Now I know how I can make better communication happen!
I feel extremely happy that I’m able to share how I feel and what I need, without offending people. But I’m most happy that I can share my inner thoughts to my partner and be understood.
Looking forward to more!
"I discovered how to say ‘No’, in a way that felt powerful yet safe to express. I understood that I have a voice & I can use it."
Ellery helped me create major positive shifts in my relationships. He supported me in reclaiming the freedom and personal dignity that comes from having healthy boundaries.
Most memorable for me, was when I discovered how to say “No”, in a way that felt powerful yet safe to express. It was quite an emotional breakthrough for me. I understood that I have a voice and I can use it to do what I needed to do for myself and be heard.
The effects in my life were real! I was able to protect myself from resentment and burnout at work. I was able to push back unreasonable requests and unwanted opinions without feeling defensive and angry. At home, the communication with my husband became more open, allowing us to be better partners in parenting.
I can now ask for what I need without damaging relationships; there is ease and peace.
"I am able to be more assertive in my requests to my colleagues & managers. And I’ve been able to adopt a more relaxed stance to issues at work."
Ellery has helped me reframe the way I perceive myself in relation to the world. I hadn’t realised how much of my perceptions were really the result of self-talk and assumptions. Ellery points out the language I use and how it affects the way I feel when I interact with the world.
On a more tangible level, coaching with Ellery enabled me to manage my feelings of burnout during the COVID19 crisis as well as paying attention to my posture and physical stance.
I am able to be more assertive in my requests to my colleagues and managers. And I’ve been able to adopt a more relaxed stance both physically and mentally to issues at work.
"I learnt how to better set boundaries and communicate my expectations more effectively. My confidence has markedly improved. In presentations, I overcame my anxiety, focusing on communicating my message authentically."
Sought Ellery out at one of the lowest points in my life. At the time, I had gotten out of a toxic work environment and was fortunate to land a new role elsewhere. However, my confidence and mental state were at rock-bottom, which I felt impeded my ability to function effectively at work and in my personal life. I would describe my situation then as moving in a fog. For example, my lack of confidence resulted in anxiety before giving presentations, weighed down by my expectations of how a ‘perfect’ presentation should be and fears of how I would be perceived by my audience.
Ellery knew how to ask the right questions and guide the conversation toward my blind spots which allowed for introspection – I was able to pinpoint certain triggers and gain clarity on why I feel or respond to situations in a certain manner. During the session, Ellery was very present and attuned. He was also able to effectively parse through what I said and accurately identify the key issue.
The somatic exercises Ellery taught have immensely helped me in stress and emotional management, as well as release past trauma from work and personal situations. I have realized the importance of “emptying my vessel” regularly so I have capacity to take on other things. I have also learnt how to better set boundaries and communicate my expectations more effectively. I have also become less concerned about how I am perceived by others. My confidence has markedly improved as a result and I am more willing to step out of my comfort zone. In terms of presentations, I was able to overcome the anxiety and focus on communicating my message authentically, focusing on what I want to deliver instead of how I deliver.
For anyone working on their self-care / healing journey, or are looking to develop their confidence and communication skills, I would highly recommend Ellery. Seeking him out is one of the best decisions in my life and I am happy to share that I am not as lost as I once was.
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Less Suffering & More Freedom
Through a Life Coach With An Ontological Approach
We thought we understood our world.
We used to navigate life based on the core, unshakable truths we shared. Our decisions were guided by the collective wisdom of government, religion and family, so even in the face of mysteries and challenges, there was a baseline of certainty.
But now, radical new ‘truths’ emerge every other day. As our communities are fragmented by ambiguities, we are pushed to make sense of the world individually. And despite being overwhelmed by information, we know less and fear more.
Therefore, having the support of a personal coach can be highly advantageous if you wish to thrive in this VUCA world. Good coaching is a form of continuous learning that’s personalized for your challenges. A professional coach also provides you a space to process your emotions safely and to formulate your strategies creatively.
As your life coach, I can bring you these benefits, but above all, I will guide you to expand your self-awareness. This will grow your inner resources, and enable you to see possibilities that you couldn’t see before.
Your circumstances may remain uncertain, but you can become more resilient.
The Rise of Coaching
(or, why I would want a life coach)
The increasing number of searches for life coaches is not just happening in Singapore. It is part of a larger trend that is rapidly growing in various developed countries for the following reasons:
- Automation, the internet and social media quicken the pace of life and raise expectations to overwhelming levels
- The world grows more volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous (VUCA) by the day
- The preference for individualization over traditional institutions (such as government, religion and family), resulting in people having to navigate a VUCA world independently
- Post-COVID, professional and personal communities become even smaller and more decentralized, increasing the need to be competent at use of self to manage relationships
- Feeling alone, despite being connected 24/7. This can be especially true for people in leadership positions, as they may have no one to confide in safely
- “High-tech, low-touch” – our interactions become less personable and empathetic as internet culture continues to shape the physical world, exacerbated by COVID-19
As we scramble to cope – and hopefully, to flourish – under the above factors, we inevitably run into proverbial brick walls that we just cannot seem to get over. They could be big, dramatic events, or issues that are more low-key but consistently show up in certain areas of your life.
They could be matters that are external, or something we are holding in our minds (or hearts). It could be a boss that you just cannot seem to please; a co-worker who you just can’t seem to get along with; a friend or family member who repeatedly triggers you; or something inside you that you feel is lacking, or preventing you from ‘moving on’.
Wisdom & New Learning
You sense that there is a need to work on yourself, and may have turned to resources such as self development books, training programs and the internet to better your inner self. This is good awareness, and I congratulate you for it.
The internet can be a handy resource. But while Googling and watching YouTube may get you information, that’s not the same as wisdom. It takes wisdom – knowing how to make use of information – to make real breakthroughs.
To survive in a world that changes nearly on a daily basis, we need to be able to look at things anew. This hinges on our ability for learning – learning that’s not one-size-fits-all, but customized for each individual. Learning that arises from awareness of self and of others.
Coaching is the process where such learning and wisdom for an individual is generated.
AI may become more and more advanced, but it takes a human soul to truly understand another, and to reflect that understanding through empathy and insight. This acting as a “human mirror” is the unique offering of a good life coach. Jack Ma alluded to this when he spoke about “LQ” – the quotient of love.
"It takes two to know one."
~ Gregory Bateson