Articles
El's musings & meaning-making
How We Derive Confidence & Regret
I sometimes contextualize confidence as the ability to take action as soon as one conceives it. Lately, it came up in the coaching sessions with a client who contemplated quitting her job. The work here was obviously not about evoking confidence...
Meditate to Communicate
Here's a suggestion: can we meditate to communicate better? The benefits of meditation have been widely documented. Chief among them is perhaps its ability to cultivate greater awareness. And awareness is everything... especially if you wish to...
What Makes Confidence Difficult
Confidence is something that I regularly work on with my coaching clients. From experience, what makes confidence difficult is the focus on the 'correct' and 'wrong' answers. It trips up the way we communicate, and robs us of better outcomes. It's...
How to Get More Freedom in a (Romantic) Relationship
Have you ever felt it was difficult to say or ask for something in a relationship? How to get more freedom in a (romantic) relationship? Not being able to freely express our thoughts and needs, and to change our minds (especially when we realize...
You Want A Life Coach? What’s Wrong? Why Are You So Weak?
Some of the most common misconceptions about coaching is that it's for people who have 'something wrong' with them. Or that they are 'weak'. These were once my impressions as well. But they turned out to be quite different from what I observed -...
Book Review: The Courage to be Disliked
The Courage to be Dislikedby Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake KogaAs virtually all of this book is in the form of dialogue between two persons, it was easy to read. This also made it easier to understand the points being made by the authors, as the...
Book Review: Atomic Habits
Atomic Habitsby James ClearThis is an extremely lean book; it’s almost almost pound-for-pound substance. It gets straight to the point and maintains interest with a steady flow of interesting knowledge that’s easy to consume. I can see care was...