It is normal to experience difficulty in our communication once in a while. But if you experience friction and frustration in expressing yourself frequently (or even daily), you might consider improving your interpersonal and work communication skills with a communication coach. The stakes may be high, because it affects your career progression, relationships and your confidence.
Impact of poor interpersonal communication skills at your workplace
Displaying poor interpersonal communication skills at your workplace can result in anything from dissatisfaction to emotional distress (high anxiety), or a drop in confidence. It could stem from your character, or from specific changes, environments or people in your life. Regardless of the cause, this can impact the quality of your workplace relationships. Your professional image might suffer, as how you communicate affects peoples’ perception of your reliability and effectiveness.
Emotional mastery is also a key factor in how you’re able to express and assert yourself. In order words, your emotional mastery can affect your clarity in communication, both in your own thoughts, and how you express yourself out loud. Being out of touch with your emotions might cause you to:
- suffer a lack of clarity in your thoughts
- not be as persuasive as you’d like to be
- feel overwhelmed, or hesitate to speak
Symptoms of issues in your interpersonal & work communication
- You need to repeat yourself a few times before your listener understands you.
- Your mind goes blank when you try to speak.
- You have ideas or thoughts you’d like to share, but you keep quiet instead of speaking up.
- You have trouble forming your words and sentences, even though you have no speech impediments.
- Your emotions (e.g. anxiety, fear, frustration, impatience) get in the way of you expressing yourself.
Signs you might need to improve your workplace communication skills
Your ability to communicate affects how people experience you at the interpersonal level. To a huge degree, it doesn’t matter how clear you think you are; what’s most important is what the other party received. You can pay attention to feedback from those around you, for a better idea of how effective your communication skills really are.
This is even more relevant when you consider that your performance is (like it or not) partly assessed based on your relationships, and the quality of your communication with the various stakeholders in your work.
⚠️ Signs that you need to improve your interpersonal communication skills
I’ve helped clients from various levels of organizational hierachy, and I get to hear, first-hand, what motivated them to learn how to communicate effectively at the workplace. The most common pain points I hear are:
① “People tell me they don’t understand what I’m trying to say.”
② “People say I’m beating around the bush, and asks me to ‘get to the point’.”
③ “People comment I’m too quiet, and tells me to speak up more.”
④ “People don’t acknowledge, or ignore my verbal contributions.”
⑤ “People say I’m too emotional, too harsh or too blunt.”
How coaching helps with effective communication & higher confidence at your workplace
“Ellery helped me to realize that I can change the tone of communication… I could definitely see the results after a few months of coaching. Now, I am able to regulate myself better as well as handle tough sitations with a clearer mind.“
“My friend told me I have changed alot – from negative, defensive communication to positive, and are able to look things at different perspectives. This also helps in my work when communicating with clients and colleagues.”
“I actually felt a difference in my posture & its positive consequences, either in myself or in the communication with others.”
“I discovered how to say ‘No’, in a way that felt powerful yet safe to express. It was quite an emotional breakthrough for me. I understood that I have a voice & I can use it… If you want to greatly improve your communication, relationships and confidence, Ellery is your coach.”
“The most significant experience is the posture that he noticed about me. He guided me to be at the correct position when I am speaking and after that, I speak out more confidently… he helped me understand my issues and practice till I overcome it. “
“My topic was on authentic communication, and he provided experiments for me to speak from a grounded and authentic space. I knew about the importance of our bodies in shifting our emotional state, but never received such individualised coaching and guidance in how to leverage this.”
“I feel a lot more at peace with myself; I’m more confident in myself, I know that I’ll figure things out even when things get messy.”
“I gained more value than I expected. They have manifested in my business, my relationship with my loved ones & in the relationship with myself.”
“Working with Ellery was highly worth the investment as I gained so many tools I can use for a lifetime & I have been freed in many ways.”
“Ellery is a master of his craft. It is clear that he is able to help people from all walks of life… After, I was able to use my body to control my moods & emotions.”
Simran Kaur Sidhu
“Extremely insightful. By talking through some of my own self doubts, why i felt a certain way and practicing a simple exercise, i was able to gain a better understanding of how i was my own barrier and take away concrete next steps.”
“I can see the improvement in my communication & relationship with my loved ones & I am closer to them again.”
“El has helped me figure out these blind spots… I’m able to make my needs known to others, thus making my communication a lot better. I am able to give better clarity to those around me as well, both in work and personal relationships. That opens up a lot of potential and confidence in myself.”
“I’m able to be more assertive in my requests to my colleagues & managers. And I’ve been able to adopt a more relaxed stance to issues at work.”
Through personal coaching, you can improve your communication and reclaim your confidence at work. This is familiar territory I’ve visited with clients on over the years, as a full-time life coach, specializing in communication and confidence.
Every coaching engagement is unique, because each client has different needs, weaknesses and strengths. However, there are processes that unfold every single time:
- Through open exploration and in-depth reflection, we will uncover your blindspots.
- Once you can see the cause or nature of your issue, you might also be able to see how you can do things differently so you get different result.
- I can also guide you to try new ways of saying or doing things, that are effective and feel authentic for you.
- Together, we will co-create practices that you can adopt, to assimilate what you learn into your regular way of being.
- I will provide you with honest feedback which you can use to calibrate and fine-tune your new skills.
What coaching is
Coaching is a form of super-customised learning, focused solely on your needs. It is one of the most dignified forms of professional help, because you choose the topic, direction and depth of what you wish to work on.
In fact, my clients are NOT ‘broken’ in any way. They are capable, creative and self-initiated individuals who want to live out their full potential. Many of them are high-performers at their workplace.
They just want support to help them hit their objectives more quickly and with less pain.
If taking ownership of your growth appeals to you, coaching is might be suitable for you.
WhatsApp me now, to find out how you and I can work together on your communication and confidence.
"A good coach can change the game. A great coach can change a life."
~ John R. Wooden